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10 Reasons Hot Chicks Have Fewer Friends

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Here’s an issue that a lot of people are reluctant to discuss. It’s easy to envision beautiful women enjoying lives far superior to our own, full of parties, dates, and opportunities we can only dream about. The reality is that a lot of them are, through no fault of their own, pretty damn lonely most of the time. We live in a world that judges people on their looks, but it’s not necessarily true that a hot chick always benefits from this mentality. There are a number of reasons why being beautiful can actually inhibit your social life quite a bit:

1. Jealousy

This is probably the most obvious reason hot chicks often have trouble finding and keeping friends. It’s human nature to spend time around people who make us feel good about ourselves, and unfortunately a lot of hot chicks make people feel bad about themselves (even if they don’t mean to). Women are super competitive, and it’s a lot more fun to hang out with a woman who makes you feel superior by comparison rather than someone who makes you feel like a giant heifer with poodle hair. This may also lead you to develop some irrational beliefs about her imaginary negative traits, leading to the rest of the items on this list.

2. Everyone thinks the hot chick wants to steal their man

First of all, it’s not a lot of fun when your husband is nonstop ogling your gorgeous friend. No one can blame you for being uncomfortable. But somehow women possess the ability to make the giant leap in logic from, “He’s looking at her!” to “She definitely wants to take him away from me”. So you stop inviting her to do things with you, especially if your guy is going to be at the same event. If the hot friend finds out your reasons, she’s likely to be pretty hurt over your unflattering opinion of her loyalty and morals. But it doesn’t stop you from feeling justified in doing it.

3. People think hot chicks are stupid

There is actually no scientific basis for this, and no genetic link between good looks and stupidity has ever been discovered. In fact, many good looking women are also doctors, math professors, and – ahem – insightful and hilarious writers. Maybe it just makes people feel better to think hot chicks are intellectually inferior, or perhaps it just comes from the dumb beauty queen stereotype. Whatever the reason, beautiful women are often underestimated and looked down upon by other women for the imagined trait of stupidity. This can make it hard for the hot chick to make new friends, and it feels pretty frustrating and alienating, too. Believe it or not, some studies have even shown that hiring managers are often prejudiced against good looking women, and this impacts their ability to get a job. Sounds unfair, doesn’t it?

4. They’re intimidating.

If you do happen to know that a hot chick is also very intelligent and successful, you might actually elevate her to a ridiculous status in your head. This causes some people to be afraid to even talk to these women, even though she’s probably just a nice, normal girl who actually has a lot of stuff in common with you.

5. Hot chicks are slutty?

It’s just a fact of life that gorgeous women are always going to have a continual herd of men following them around. Just look at Taylor Swift for a good example. She’s constantly surrounded by men who want to date her, but how many times have you seen people criticize the hell out of her for being young, beautiful, and dating a lot? If an older, overweight, and more frumpy woman dates a lot we say, “You go girlfriend!”. But it’s not okay for Taylor, probably at least partially because of that jealousy thing. However, it’s also because somewhere in our messed-up brains, we assume that a woman who has a lot of dating opportunities automatically sleeps with all of these men. This is about as stupid as assuming that everyone who wants a sports car wakes up with one magically parked in the garage.

6. People think hot chicks are stuck up

Another general assumption people make about beautiful women is that they must be stuck up. The problem is even worse if the lady in question happens to be shy (yes, that happens). Human beings, in general, make snap judgments based upon appearances and then set about gathering evidence to support their ideas. This is called a self-fulfilling prophesy. It often doesn’t matter if the woman happens to be very generous, thoughtful, or loving. Once the assumption is made that she is a conceited bitch, the observer gathers any random criteria necessary to continue reinforcing this belief.

7. Being beautiful means you’re shallow and vain

This one goes along with the assumption that beautiful women are snobs. Despite the fact that some people are simply born with good genes, there is a bizarre pervading idea in society that any woman with a nice figure is anorexic. It’s also assumed that she spends all of her money on the most expensive cosmetics and plastic surgery, when clearly she should be giving that money to homeless orphans. What a selfish bitch, right? And no one wants to be friends with that selfish bitch. Well, the truth is, a naturally beautiful woman is actually less likely to spend piles of money on that stuff because she doesn’t need to. But it makes you feel better to think it, and talk about her behind her back. Ironically, this gossiping is often done at the salon during your weekly manicure appointment. Admit it.

8. She has never known pain

All her life, she has had everything she ever wanted delivered to her on a silver platter, right? At least that’s the way you imagine it, because possessing beauty magically unlocks doors to a happier, easier, and more luxurious life. This is yet another illogical conclusion, but it makes you not want to be friends with her because she couldn’t possibly relate to your life. However, really think about this one: Maybe she gets more dates, but most of the men she attracts only like her for her looks. Maybe she could pursue a modeling career, but the fashion world is actually not a kind or fulfilling place to work. Being beautiful does not make her immune to the pain of losing a parent, suffering a miscarriage, or any of the other tragedies of life which happen to all of us. If she does have a great career, she definitely had to work her way through college and earn it just like you did. Beauty is not the golden ticket to a fantasy life that you imagine it to be.

9. She knows she’s beautiful

She actually might not, but it doesn’t stop you from imagining that she gleefully prances around with a giant entitlement complex. Just like all women, she probably looks in the mirror and hyper-focuses on that weird line between her eyebrows or those cellulite dimples on her thighs. And all women have cellulite dimples. All of them. If you don’t believe it, pick up one of those tabloids where they show what supermodels really look like when they’re not made up and airbrushed. Most of them do possess nice bone structure, true, but they’re not perfect and even they know it.

10. All the men will ignore you when she’s around

It’s easy to imagine that if you make friends with this hot chick, then every time you go out all the men at the bar will flock to her side and you’ll be stuck in the corner watching her revel in the limelight. In reality, the opposite is often true. Sure, men are going to notice her, but most of them also have the same aforementioned notions about beautiful women. They also assume she’ll just use them for their money, and for this reason will often look but not touch. And quite frankly, they’re scared to death of her because surely she’s going to reject them since (in their minds) she only dates NFL quarterbacks. The truth is, you probably won’t notice a difference in the amount of attention you receive from men when she’s around. And unless she really is a complete bitch, she’d never force you to sit in the corner while she has all the fun, anyway.

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12 comments

  1. Glad someone’s finally written a good article about this topic. Everything you wrote here is so true and its exactly why I don’t have any friends except my fiance. I wish people weren’t so judgmental. I’ve been lonely since I was 13 for friends for this reason. I’m so lonely its created a fear of rejection and I’m becoming avoidant and gave up even trying to make friends. My counsellor doesn’t even understand why I have a hard time and she’s a woman. The stereotype of the pretty lonely girl is real unless you decide to get slutty and become a party animal, which I’m not.

    • It’s so shameful that women act like this. I’m 47 and have NO friends since my best friend died of BC 3 yes ago. It saddens me that my 22 yr old daughter is going through the same thing, since she’s a very nice young lady, not her fault she inherited good looks (hope that doesn’t sound conceited), but it’s true. I’m been lonely for years and hope things get better for my daughter and you, jealousy is so stupid!

    • I know the feeling all too well and it started since in grade 8 for me in high school. I was never a mean person in fact I was always nice friendly and welcoming towards others even if they were total snobs. And still till this day I am But ever since then I haven’t been able to make many solid lasting female friendships and all the girlfriends that I did have ended up talking behind my back or back stabbing me and in the end completely alienated me cause guys started noticing me.so over the years I had mostly male friends. The cycle continued for years up until my graduation day. After high school i put on 100 lbs in only a year ,was partying a lot going out eating junk unemployed etc but for some reason I seem to be surrounded by more friends. A couple years ago I decided to make a life change went on a diet started going to the gym and lost all the weight . Now it just seems even worse because it seems like people have gotten used to me being fat for all those years and probably thought of me as a non threat. Now it is so hard to make a solid girlfriend and the ones I thought I had have slowly backed away cause I think my success has not only made them jealous but also feel less attractive themselves in comparison . I have never tried to make my friends feel bad about themselves as anything of always encourage them and giving them advice especially being overweight 10 plus years after high school I knew how it felt to have zero self esteem . Funny enough not even when I was smaller I still had very little self esteem due to the way I was treated in elementary school by the popular girls.This was around the time when that the” kate moss” look was in and I had a curves and a bubble butt ,wich people made fun of me for .I was used and tossed aside when convinient, made fun of you name it . I never thought I was pretty enough or skinny enough or smart enough etc. Basically my bf is my best friend but its not enough .its very lonely not having at least onr close female friend .

    • That is very true girl….

    • Awwwww Hun I’ve had the same problem too, I don’t think I’m beautiful I think I’ve been told I’m striking and have had issues with girls all my life. Traumatic either turn lesbian on me or stab me in the back. Always got on better with men or that rare girl who is incredibly intelligent and knows the mind is more important than them looks. Look out for those kind of girls they are the best. Else maybe we should make a group so no one feels alone?

    • Omg i can relate with all this!!! If you are blessed lookwisd you immediately get…judged

  2. Great article and true to the very last sentence. Growing up elsewhere I had an abundance of wonderful friends who I have loved since we were babies. Moving out west in my 20s was a disaster to say the least. Everyone thinks I’m going to sleep with their husbands or some other horrible thing. You wouldn’t believe the rumors too. Very tiring. I’m a mom of 4 boys and a former model. I’m currently teaching and studying Deaf education.
    Bless all of you ladies.

    • This is crazy. I can’t seem to make any friend. Not only i am a formal model 5′ 10″ tall but I am very accomplished academically. I have no friends and guys beliece I am out of their league. It took me years to understand that it wasn’t my personally. It was my looks that was a blessing and a curse at the same time.

  3. I agree 100%…. I always have had a male companion/ fiancé/ husband… And never many girlfriends.. I thought I was unlikabke despite being kind, generous and an overly good listener….. Then one day my husband told me it was because I was attractive and a doctor which intimidated othe women… I didn’t want to believe it, but after years of not being invited to book clubs, ladies’ night out etc… I feel it’s 100% true… It is terribly lonely!!

  4. I agree. People assume if you are pretty you are always surrounded by people and friends. That might be true for pretty celebrities but its not regular pretty women who have to deal with the cold shoulder all the time from other women at work, or in the gym, or at a dance class, or at a company party. I grew up with everyone constantly calling me beautiful and pretty, and it might feel like a benefit in jr. High when you are starting to discover boys and the attention you get from them, by the time I was an adult in my mid 30s I found myself with no close friends no matter how nice and generous I was with female acquaintances; I was constantly trying make people see that I was nice, and funny, and generous. I actually had an easier time making friends with much older women who I found were way more secure and confident at 60 than women 40 nd under. If I was too friendly with guys they took it the wrong way and wanted me as their girlfriend and not just a friend. I envied girls who could have guys as just friends. I am in my 40s now and I am constantly told how young I look, and I am still lonely but its better. I actually look forward to getting older so other women will finally treat me as their equal and no longer a threat to how they see themselves.

  5. Yes this is so true! Is exactly what happens to me! I’m a georgeous 15 year old girl but many people tell me I look older,like 17-19 . I’ve been always lonely and I had just a few friends but now they are not anymore and I’m pretty left alone. It’s sad, I love being beautiful but I hate that I’m so sjy and lonely and I can’t make friends . ???

  6. Found this article searching for answers on why I am so lonely but when I look in the mirror, have to admit that I’m blessed. I don’t know why I have so much trouble making friends and finding a good boyfriend. I’ve experienced almost every item on this list since I grew out of my “ugly duckling” phase, learned to embrace my femininity and started taking care of my appearance. I too became a model but quit because it’s such a nasty industry and agree that there’s this expectation to be slutty. Maybe I seem stuck up but I am shy and have walls from my siblings, cousins, and I being abused by a pyschopath when we were kids. It’s just hard to trust people after that. It’s true that healthy people are easy on and nice to good-looking people but I have found that if you arouse some insecurity in a person they will attack you for it.

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